Self Made

This blog is dedicated to all who made their life themselves. Who can be called Self Made.

No, I am not among them. My life is gifted, every moment of it. From my birth, to my education everything was planned by my parents. And they were there to make sure that my every step is smooth.

I know a few people who made their life all by their own. My father is my favorite example, my hero. The family was mainly surviving on farming. He and his brothers needed to do the work at field before going to school. And the school was far and they needed to go on foot. Lazy to do the hardwork, all his brothers quit school to start business of their own. My dad must have felt bad to see them earning while he was studying. He went on to complete his diploma and joined government service too.

After a while I guess everybody recognised the value of the effort he made. Now after retiring he is leading a lazy life and he is getting a steady income by pension. ( I didn't like the idea because my parents, both are getting pension, and are not at all dependent on me. They proudly say that till the last day government will pay for their expense ).

I know a friend of mine who made her way up in life. Because of dad's income not sufficient for supporting family and ailing mother, she joined work early. Grabbed the first opportunity that came to her, not thinking about how to make a good career. Still, because of her hard work and dedication, she moved up in the career and now in a good post. That too supporting her father and family. I was so moved by her story that I started looking at my life seriously and trying to plan my days and life !!! I respect and thank her for that.

Recently I met someone who made his life. Though lost his parents at young age, he managed to complete his studies and joined a job. Now he is doing higher education part time. When talking to him, I was feeling very shaking. No I don't have any sympathy to him that he lost his parents. I feel sorry for that, but I was shaking because I was facing someone who is a winner in life. Though we can feel sorrow just skin deep when we meet him, he always keep a smile and his head high. I respect him for what he is. By choosing to live the life to be a winner, overcoming hurdles at every step, he proved his worth. May God bless him and shower blessings on him...

I am not feel like life was unfair to them or they were not lucky. Life wanted to trick with them, but they were smart enough to trick life back. Truly, we can say 'Hats off to you, guys'....

Innovative Multiplex - Feel Sorry To See You Like That...

I was very sad about Innovative Multiplex ( IM ). It was the first multiplex I have ever been to, and my favorite too. It has the best ambience, best chairs ( no other theater has such good chairs with amble knee room ), good AC, nice sound system, reasonably priced food court, clean toilet and more importantly reasonable price. Only 100 on weekdays and 150 on fri, sat and sun.

When I went there yesterday my heart sank. It's been a while I went there. Ice Age 3 was the last movie I watched there around 5 months back. Yesterday I saw a completely different IM. At 1:15 in the noon, I was not expecting much people there, thanks to the Bangalore sun. The very appearence of the complex
was changed, changed for bad.

It looked like the management has lost interest in running the complex.The lobby was very unkept. There was no people to clean the table at food court. The toilet was very disappointing. There was no soap, no tissue, the mirror was looking old with the reflecting coating lost at places, the cupboard door was on
floor. It was not stinking, and that was good and there was water too. Certainily the IM that I knew and liked was missing...


Inside the movie hall too things were not in place. The numbers behind the chair was all chaos. We needed to look for the small digits near the hand rest to find the seat. The AC was also not functioning fine. It was hot inside. Too bad IM...

Hope they are in middle of rennovation and the new improved IM ( at the same price ) will open soon... Waiting for that. Because it is a place I want to go again...

Love - As I See It...

Love should be
unconditional
sacrificing
accepting each other with all flows
giving oneself completely to the other, no matter whatever the other does
not having any expectations from the other
continue loving even while the other is hurting or demoralising us...
Bullshit !!!


Being in Love, should never ever be anything like the conditions above. Love should be unconditional, I agree, but by taking the giant leap of Love, we of course are making some conditions. When we love anybody, without saying, we are expecting the other to understand us, be with us no matter what, be the pillar of strength, and most important understand us... So how can Love ever be unconditional...


We can not expect our partner to Love us the way we are. Being in Love itself means we both like each other. It should be that part of us we should nourish. It should not take the stand this is what I am, if you failed to see it in the first hand, it was your problem. Now you should Love me this way too. Totally wrong. We need to make each other adaptable. Should mend a bit to fit with each other. Not changing ourself should be the biggest mistake and the spoil sport. When you are ready to Love, love whole heatedly, by making all the necessary steps to make it work smooth.


Love always happen for a reason. Make sure that reason never dies.. If you can not see the friendly warm person you liked in the other, take a pause and get it corrected, you and other both.


All the best... Make your Love work always...

Helping Husband

I was helping mom cleaning fish and prawns in the morning.When my sister called I was not able to pick the call and she was teasing me that I was preparing to be a good helping husband.
In fact, that is not a bad idea, is it ???

I grew up seeing my dad helping mom at kitchen. Being working couple, they needed to share the kitchen and the task of taking care of me and my sister. I am sure, being the 'good' kids we were, they must have had enough fun getting us ready for school every morning ! And if my dad won't help in the kitchen, mom won't be able to catch the 8:30 bus. I remember dad taking us to school in his Hero Jet ( the best vehicle I've ever been on, his cycle ).

Come back to the helping point. Is it really bad helping wife in kitchen ???? Being bachelor I used to share chores with my roomies. So whats the big deal..

There is an interesting point to add to this. When I offer help to my wife, she will deny ( I do hope ) me to do anything that may dirty me ( like cleaning the fish ). I might need to do an occasional vegetable cutting or washing glasses ( my mom begged me not to help her with vegetables and washing. She says, I cut each of them in different sizes and she will have to make them similar sizes to make sure all of it cooks well and that is a greater job than cutting them fresh. Also, if I help her washing I will flood the kitchen and that is much more of a chore. Nobody appreciate my sincere efforts, you see....).

Ok, so my wife will make me do only simple things. And may be I will be able to manage with 'oral' support. Just be in the kitchen and say 'there is an art in the way you cut the vegetables', or 'you wash the glass to sparkle' or 'only you can cook the dish to this perfect aroma' or whatever. She will be happy and finish all the kitchen work fast.

See, by simply be at the kitchen and do some lip exercise and spending time there, I can make sure we will get more time out of kitchen. I can hear you say 'Bravo bro...'. Thank you. Now it is time for you to wish me good luck and wish all my dream come true...

Prevention Is Better Than Cure...

So true. But who is there take care of the prevention part... Personal matters we can take care of ourself and make sure we will do the precaution part too. But for public issues... Does Civic authorities doing their part well...

Last week I saw a dried branch of the big tree opposite to our office. It was inside the Rest House Park and our security told the park caretakers about it. They came there to inspect the scene. One was telling the other that they don't have the ladder to reach that height, then the second care taker told that they should not touch it, it is supposed to be handled by the forest authorities.

Nothing happened. The log remained there, till today noon. It fell directly on the windshield of my colleague's car. She needed to spend Rs. 3000 to change it. Who is responsible for this incident... The forest authorities who didn't check the hanging logs periodically or the part caretakers who didn't bother to remove it...

Thank God it didn't fell on anybody. Still, can't that be avoided....

Theory Of Relationship

When you meet someone new, you will find him/her attractive and there starts a relation.
When it is being built, at one point ego will come to picture, ego of both.
It may grow distance or break-up.
Then, you will think and realise how good it was with him / her and start weeping over it.
It will be the same case with the other too.
You will be dying to patch up, to say sorry.
One day you will at last make the courage to say sorry and straighten things.
Both of you will come closer than ever before and will live happily ever after....

This is my theory of relation.
A friend or colleague, with anybody this could be true.

Remember, everything depends on the time taken to realise the worth and to patch up.
Make sure it will not be too late to correct...
Good Luck

I Am Special !!!

Don't get too excited. Everyone of us is special. Got something unique. This post is just one instance when this unique (dis)ability made my day...

It is simple - I can get lost in any road. Even the road I travel daily !!!

Today I needed to go to KR Puram to collect my camera, and though I been to the place a lot of times, I got lost, royally, twice on the same day...

The Bangalore Metro work is going on most part of the route and so I was a bit careful about the road I chose. I took MG Road, to Ulsoor, then Old Madras Road to KR Puram. I was ready to enter Old Madras Road, putting on the indicator and all ( because I used to go by that route daily for more than 6 months ), I saw the sign post saying for Ulsoor I needed to go straight... Thanking God and my fortune I went straight only to find that I was on the wrong way... Too bad it was a one way and I was royally stuck. Almost 15 minutes later and numerous short-cuts I managed to get to the desired route.

At KR Puram junction I needed to take right turn. So on reaching KR Puram, I was on the right track and was looking for the turn. And it was very late when I realised I was on the flyover... It took a good 2.5 kms to find the U-turn. And while coming back too, I was about to take the next flyover, being on right track, but despite the angry horns and howls of the following vehicles I manged to escape it.

I ride almost 40 minutes and 8 kms more. That too in the hot Bangalore sun. Even in my thin Kurta, I was sweating a lot. And my office schedules are so tight that I felt a bit guilty when I asked for the half an hour permission. But on the flip side, I ride the hanging flyover, which I always wanted to.

Majestic is nearly 5 kms from my office and around 15 minutes ride. But when I go there, I will take nearly an hour and will roam a good chunk of Bangalore. Everytime I promise myself to be careful and be on the right road, but somehow very naturally I will deviate from it.

Whats life without a little surprises... I am in for the game :)

Another Happy Journey...

Of late, every KSRTC ( Karnataka State Road Transport Corporation ) journey between Bangalore and Thrissur is becoming a story of it's own. Though it never keep timing, economy and comfort reasons made it my choice. When private buses charges Rs. 500 to Thrissur, KSRTC will make you poor only by 320. The buses are much neater and hardly ( only once, that too only two bugs ) bed-bug infested. While private buses will drive rash, KSRTC drivers won't ride fast, will slow down for humps and potholes, comfort level is also high. But their 3 breaks and not in a hurry to reach attitude will take at least 2 hours more. So the choice is yours, time or comfort and economy.


Last sunday ( Feb 28 ), the bus came 20 mins late. It was good, because in fact, I reached Thrissur almost 15 mins late ;). But as usual or just being KSRTC, they were not at all in a hurry and was taking their sweet time to check the tickets, cracking jokes and all. Then came the jackpot for the conductor. One guy was carrying photocopy and not the original driving licence. Seeing it the happy conductor told him, he will not be alloweded inside without original ( as per the rule. The other rule about timing they will break happily). After a long fight and the guy's friend managed to get the licence in between the fight, the journey started.

But there were more to come. Just after we crossed the Valayar checkpost, there were some folks, look like tribal were on road protesting about something. They were all carrying long bamboo sticks and all and were howling. I thought they are going to hijack us ( then you might get another story here !!! ). But it was just a possession and after almost one and a half hour we continued the journey.


Still, the driver was in no hurry and took two coffee breaks on way. When the transport secretary came to know that KSRTC bus is causing a lot of accidents, and thinking it might be due to the continuous driving, he suggested them to take breaks in between and I guess this guys are overdoing it.The bus was so slow that even the heavy trucks overtook us.

We reached Bangalore a good two and and a half hour late. Thank God my manager believed this story, Afterall, she also is a KSRTC traveller at times...